Doctor, listen…..

How do you tell your doctor and convince him/her that you might be suffering from depression? How to admit that you might need help?

People admit that they feel burned out (which doesn’t mean that they are depressed but quite often it goes together), yet are afraid to admit to their co-workers, bosses, even themselves.

They feel like they need help, that the way how they’re feeling is not okay. No self help books help because they simply cannot concentrate while reading them. Exercising help only for that hour or so and half an hour after it. Eating healthy takes too much energy which they already don’t have. Good night sleep? Yeah, sleep 8 hours and nope, not so much energy anyway.

People are afraid of speaking up about such problems, because the judgemental crap that pours over them is hurtful.

But doctors should listen to their patients.

Bosses should listen to their workers.

People simply should listen and STOP give dumb advice (go out more, exercise, read this book, eat this, etc)*.

 

 

*If those advice helps someone, good! No one is the same.

 

 

Everything’s fine, I’m just tired.

Now that my time here is coming to an end, I more and more think that I shouldn’t have been here.

That I wasted the time. Not mine, but others.

I don’t have a time to waste, I waste my life. I don’t use opportunities, I don’t take charge of things….

I’m useless.

I want to blame others that they didn’t explain me anything, that didn’t come up to me, that they should have pay me a bit more attention.

But I can’t blame anyone. It’s all my fault.

But the sad thing is that I’m tired to take charge of everything. I’m tired of fighting alone.

I just that someone would be there for me. Like just for me, just pay me some more attention, listen to me, hear and understand what I say.

Me being me, I will never have that person to whom I’ll open up.

Everything’s fine. I’m just tired.

 

Please, can you…..?

Some people are taught to do this. Some are not.

Why it’s hard to ask for help?

Is it because people hate weak people? Because they don’t want to deal with other people’s problems? Because asking for help for some people is a sign of weakness? Or is it because other people mock one’s problems? Think that they aren’t problems? Is it because one is ashamed? Is it because they have given up on people, because previous they didn’t get any help, when they asked for it? Because one is taught to deal with one’s problems by himself?

Yet, they constantly remind us that it is important to open up, speak about issues.

I truly hate that “You can’t be sad, because there’s someone who has it worse than you.” It’s ridiculous. And painful. I get that there are people who has it worse, but right now, at this very damn moment, MY problem is eating ME. “You can’t be happy, because someone else somewhere is happier.”

It should be put in a big, bold, neon pink (or whichever colour suits the wall) that asking for help is absolutely normal, necessary and good. Very good. Underneath with a smaller font goes “It is not weakness, it’s actually showing how STRONG you are.”

And next to this should go “It’s forbidden to mock, laugh at, say any other stupid phrase, when a person asks you for help.”

No matter how strong we are, how much we’re able to deal with problems, hardships by ourselves, sometimes (anytime when we feel it’s necessary), we must, need, should, can ask for help. Even for small things, like, pass something from that high shelf at the shop (short people problems), or for big things, like, ask for help when you realize you can’t deal with your inner demons by yourself.